My son said this might be more of a mom thing. Maybe he is right.
But I like eye-gazing into my grandkid’s eyes. Eye to eye. Just staring and looking into their eyes while they look back into mine. First it is out of a love for them, as it was for my own children. I want them to know and feel it in their little bitty eyes and self that I love and care for them, that I see them and want them. Second, it is a means of security for them that someone is holding them and spending time with them. They are important to someone bigger than they. Gaze as long as they will let you. It seems a peace will come over them while you are holding them just looking.
This will work for older children too. Sit with them and look at them…don’t need to say a word. Just sit and smile and put your arm around them if they’ll let you. Most kids only want to know someone is looking at them. You be that someone.
Gazing one on one with others is also good. We want to be looked at eye to eye when talking with others – showing we value them and feel what they have to say is important to us – to another human being. We’re not doing a quick glance, but eyeball to eyeball facing the other and talking person to person. We are adding and showing value to them just by seeing them in our everyday experiences.
Is there someone in your life that needs your eyes to gaze into theirs to bring them love, peace and assurance?
Mrs. Goodfinder 