'finding good in everyday life'
Could the way I show care to others affect the way they care for themselves?
This is especially true with children.
If I don’t show care to them perhaps they won’t care adequately for themselves.
Yet – as I respect them, they will understand and learn how to respect themselves.
In a nutshell, we teach them how to care for and respect themselves and then they learn how to care for and respect others – because of how we cared for them.
Little kids try to get along by hitting, pushing, shoving, taking.
They haven’t matured and learned enough language to think and speak what they want through words, so they don’t have to resort to force.
Are we adults the same way many times? We don’t have a big enough working vocabulary. It takes time and effort to learn words and each of their meanings. It is a lifelong process. Then we haven’t spent enough time thinking to draw together our thoughts into meaningful conversation to convey what we need, want, hope for – or to be able to understand what others need, want, and hope for when they speak to us.
It works both ways.
The more words we know, the more detailed our conversation can become; the finer the understanding; the more complete the thought processing. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Yet words describe behind the picture, the thoughts of why it was painted and how it came into being.
There is something about language that is so needful for us humans to fully interact. We could all help ourselves, become better if we broaden our vocabulary and learn how to use it, to think it through and then to convey it.
Language is a gift. Being able to peacefully negotiate (talk) with another human being about things important to us in a way they can fully understand what we mean and are thinking. We can know they heard us correctly because we used the right words. And we, in turn, do the same with them as they speak clearly with their words. This can prevent many fights or misunderstandings.
Of course, there still needs to be the back and forth of conversation – asking questions…did you mean this when you said that…?
How do we start? Pick any area of interest to you and investigate one new word about that subject. Read its meaning in all aspects and practice using it. Aim to learn one new word a week. Watch your vocabulary and understanding increase. Don’t let big words intimidate you. You personally, will be pleased with your growth.
Pick your subject and begin today. Become a master of your own language!
Lots of talk – even in my talk. Who am I? Where am I going? What should I do?
I think our first question should be – who do I want to become? This will open the door to see where we are going, what direction to take.
Look at your present state as your starting place – not a permanent situation you are always trying to escape from. See it as the start. Like in a race, the gate is behind you. The whole lane, field, world is ahead of you waiting for you to run through it and to it.
The ‘being’ will lead to the ‘doing’.
Once we decide who we want to be, we can figure out the steps we need to take…the path to get on…the lane to drive in… what exits to get off or on.
Again, this takes self-introspection. You are unique. Each of us are. We have to assess our likes, dislikes, skills, talents, abilities. We have to take notice of ourselves. Not in a comparative way, but in a curious way. What do I have to bring value to this world? How am I crafted?
This is not being selfish. This is part of self-development and necessary for growth.
Right now I’m thinking of horse whisperers. The whisperer has to go quietly and slowly around the horse to understand it and for the horse to understand them. There is a lot of listening involved. This is how they begin their communication. Time. Patience. Listening. Observing. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
We need to do this with ourselves. Tune out everybody, everything and learn how you’re crafted…not what someone else tries to tell us how you’re made. Too often others try to tell you how you should be when they themselves don’t know who they are or what they are doing. Don’t fall for letting another person manage your life!
What is one aspect I want more to become?
Mrs. Goodfinder 