'finding good in everyday life'
Could the way I show care to others affect the way they care for themselves?
This is especially true with children.
If I don’t show care to them perhaps they won’t care adequately for themselves.
Yet – as I respect them, they will understand and learn how to respect themselves.
In a nutshell, we teach them how to care for and respect themselves and then they learn how to care for and respect others – because of how we cared for them.
Last post, I related a story about the man coming into the office angry and trying to deposit his ‘people-pain’ on me. I mentioned how my response was kind and friendly even though his actions were undeserving; but isn’t that the way life is? None of us deserve good treatment, but we are obligated to treat all humans with respect and kindness, being an example of what we’d like to see from them. “Do unto others as you would like done unto you.” Sometimes that is very hard to remember, much less do. But it is a possible goal…it won’t be done perfectly or often enough, but it is a goal I’m striving for. Back to the gentleman previously mentioned. As an experiment in people, I have treated him very kindly since that experience and guess what? He came into the office another time and I wished him a good day and he said with his back to me, “Same to you.” What a surprise!!! That was the most positive thing I’d heard from him ever! The next time he came in, I wished him a good day again and this time he replied, “Have a good day.” Again still not facing me when he spoke, but this was progress none-the-less! He has been in several more times since and his demeanor is changing for the better each time. I think some people have in their minds from previous episodes in their lives, thought patterns that they have to act, react or think and respond in certain ways. They don’t see other options. By treating them with kindness and respect and just being good to them, I believe it raises the bar in their lives by raising the bar in their own eyes of who they are. They begin to see themselves as someone worth something to someone else and because they are now a somebody and not a nobody, they begin to treat others as somebodies and not nobodies. Try this experiment in you own life and see what good results they bring.
What can I do to help others? I can’t see any special talents. All I have is this broom. A old red-handled, broken-bristle whisk broom.
Then you can sweep the sidewalks and streets around your domicile and keep them clean for Jesus. ‘Yeah, but that’s manual labor, hard work, not thought of as respectable work.’ Did you know manual is in Jesus name? Emanuel! He said He would bless all the works of our hands, so whatever we set our hand to do, He sees it as important and will bless it. (Deuteronomy 28:8.)
People notice when we keep our areas neat and tidy. They notice when we care about our surroundings. It is an encouragement for them to start taking better care of and respecting what they have. All many need is someone’s example to follow; and people are watching.
One small place I worked was very disorganized and dirty…layers of dirt on the carpet, woodwork, cabinets, desk and equipment…it had never been kept up. One piece of equipment at a time I began to clean . I vacuumed and washed the carpet and washed all the woodwork and cabinets and began to organize the chaos. People began to comment each time they came in how much cleaner things looked. That was extremely rewarding to hear.
I swept the sidewalk every day in front of the store. This was ‘my’ store, my responsibility and I wanted it to look nice, and I enjoyed doing it. The street really needed to be swept along the curb’s edge, and after several months I couldn’t stand to look at it any more and got the broom and the scoop shovel and cleaned it all up. The next day the neighboring business was out cleaning their street curb! One good deed started another…and again, people noticed and commented!
The street drain across the road was covered with dirt and grass, and weeds were growing around it so water couldn’t drain. That was another project to be done, and a nice gentleman from the neighboring business came out to help me shovel it away and cut the weeds back.
One very rainy day I went to work and the street was flooded. The drain was clogged again. Although the drain wasn’t on my side of the road, I didn’t want the water rising and coming near ‘my establishment’, so I got my trusty red-handled broom and walked across the street to see what could be done. It was really kind of fun, the road was deep in water and I just waded through it like a little kid, poking the broom handle around the drain to loosen up the fallen leaves and grass clippings that were covering it up, and then the water began to flow…rapidly!
I had created my own little river at the edge of the street. I kept stirring the water to loosen the debris and finally was able to reach down and pull it all out and throw it on the grass easement. Then I turned the broom back right side up and swept it completely clean as the water continued to drain.
Feeling a sense of accomplishment I walked back across the street to the store not thinking any more about it, cleaned the broken-bristle broom and set it up to dry. A while later a man came in and thanked me for cleaning the drain. I didn’t think anyone was watching.
On my way home, I thanked God for my father who had taught me how to use a broom, and for all the times we’d swept out the garage together. I was grateful for two hands and my red-handled broom.
Mrs. Goodfinder 