The Need to Be Needed!

Some may think it’s selfish to feel needed.

I believe it’s part of our drive for purpose. We want to know something we did mattered in someone else’s life…that we were noticed. (I also realize it can become backwards and cause people problems, dependencies etc. etc. etc.)

But! What I’m getting at is this need to make something of value to someone else. It’s like a gift that no one else could or did make and they are happy to receive it. They like it and they like you for giving it to them. That makes us happy. That’s how it’s supposed to be.

People need what we can provide for them in a good honest way!

I want to raise this idea up a notch. In our relation to God, it’s different. He made us, but he doesn’t need us. He wants us. He doesn’t need anything of ours. It’s all his anyway. But we’re his kids and like any earthly father, he wants us. That’s a big difference between the need and the want. The want comes from choice. The need comes from a necessity.

We not only need to be needed, but we want to be wanted.

God wants us. Let’s want him back.

Little By Little

Sometimes our problems can seem so big we don’t know where to start.

It will take too long. I don’t have time. I don’t feel like it. Forget it!

Been there done that.

This morning, in my beautiful little home, I noticed some old dirt on the bathroom tile floor under the hot water radiator. I have been working for months to get everything clean to my liking, and here was another area needing attention. Below is part of my process.

  1. One day I took off all the switch plates and washed them and the switches.
  2. Another time I scraped off years of sloppy paint jobs from the tops of all the lovely thick white tiles. Now they gleam!
  3. I began vinegar spraying all the fixtures and faucets and gradually worked off the lime build up. It takes quite a while to do this without having to scratch the chrome or use toxic cleaners. But it works.
  4. Recently I popped all the clear caps off the water taps and soaked them shiny in vinegar and popped them back on – they look new again!
  5. This morning I toothbrushed out the dirt (using my vinegar/Dawn detergent solution) from under the radiator and it is finally clean.

My vintage bathroom has been a work in progress. I still need to scrape small paint drops from the tile floor, and I want to wash all the walls. That will be another day.

The important thing is the work is getting done. My bathroom is looking almost new and it’s been happening little by little.

This process will work in about any area you find yourself resisting getting started. You’ll feel accomplishment as one thing is done. It can be fit into small increments of time. It won’t feel like overwhelm trying to do everything in one day.

Is there a little-by-little in your life you want to begin?

What Are You Looking For?

Because you will find it.

This goes either way…positive or negative.

Friends or enemies

Help or aloneness

Abundance or lack

People doing right or people doing wrong

Thankfulness or cynicism

Encouragement or criticism

Faith or skepticism

A way through or a way out

Courage or fear

Solutions or problems

Love or hate

Be on the lookout for what you want. You will find it.