Tag: pain

A Hurting Woman

Jennifred Jones

The other day I was having lunch with a group of dear ladies.

One beautiful woman was telling her story of heartache…a bad breakup after 3 years of being together. This had happened at the beginning of the year. She was recently retired and alone now. Desperately searching for a new ‘love’ she was dating and doing many foolish things putting herself, her health and safety at great risk. But she was desperate.

Too often men and women, trying to make up for their own losses and hurts, do things they wouldn’t otherwise do because of their pain. The pain causes them to not think clearly and make unwise decisions – decisions, they later come to regret.

I listened to this dear woman, whom I’d never met before, I didn’t say anything, but I hurt with her. When we all left, we hugged each other and I said, “Take care of yourself.” and prayed for her as I drove home.

My prayer was for her to see past the pain and see her value…that just because someone she’d loved had ‘tossed her away’, that she’d not ‘toss herself away’, but become stronger and better in spite of it all. She is a valuable person.

Do you know someone who needs to be told they are valuable? Can you see in another’s eyes or hear in their voice the cry for help?

Be on the lookout and ask God to help.

‘People Pain’

Jennifred Jones

Of all the types of pain in the world, it seems the worst one to endure and the hardest one to deal with is people-pain.

This morning at work a man came into the office so angry about something, that I wasn’t sure what was on his mind. I greeted him with kind words and then he, without saying a word or changing his expression, threw his paperwork over the counter at me and turned and left. I told him thank you and wished him a good day, just as I would anyone else coming in the office.

A gentle answer turns away wrath.

For him, this is normal behavior. He seems not to know joy, peace, kindness and that saddens me. He must be holding onto pain and bitterness from something long ago.

The thought came to me while eating lunch, ‘People have to free themselves of their pain.’ Whether they take it out on someone else or themselves, they have a need to rid themselves of their pain. Of course the ways many people try to do this doesn’t give genuine relief; it may just be enough to keep the pressure cooker from exploding inside them.

I thought, ‘God did not create His creation to endure pain and suffering…especially emotional pain and what I now call ‘people-pain’…pain caused through relationships with others.

Yes, we will have to endure people-pain and all sorts of emotional pain and suffering while we live on this planet; however, God did not intend us to bear it alone.

God provided a way to get rid of the burden of pain and suffering caused in our relationships with others. We have to take it all to Jesus. He says, “Casting the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately andcares about you watchfully.” I Peter 5:7 AMP.

We have to give it up; give the people causing pain up; say to God, “I can’t take it any longer! You deal with it for me.’

He is there to help you in your time of trouble.

Jesus is our pain killer. He bore it so we didn’t have to. We will have many, many pains and cares, troubles and worries every day, and His shoulders are big enough to handle them all!

Every single pain!!!

God didn’t make you to bear the pain. He said, “I will.” But you have to give it to Him first. You have to know He cares and that you can take it all to Jesus and He won’t make fun of you for coming, or chastise you for not being strong on your own. He says, “Come to Me.”

I’m praying for that man to take it to Jesus so he can be free. Yes it is his choice, but I am still praying for him to make that good choice.

How do you handle your ‘people-pain’?