Tag: do unto others

Manners

Jennifred Jones

‘Who are you to talk to me about manners?? I’ll do what I want!’

‘That’s old-fashioned malarky! Times have changed! We’re progressive! Anyway, who cares? I’m free. It’ my life, my space, my place, and I know I’m right anyway!’

So, we push, and we shove, and we ignore, overlook, disrespect, step on and drive over anybody in our path. And don’t we like it when others do unto us as we have done unto them??

That’s why manners came about. So people like us in our hurry and thoughtlessness don’t ignore, overlook, disrespect, step on and drive over those who don’t cooperate according to our schedule.

Let’s take a look at the last 24 hours – the last 2 hours…where could we have been a bit better person to another person? We’re all in life together. We’ve all got family, job, career, neighbors, other drivers, clerks, even ourselves trying to get stuff done.

Maybe if we each just pause before we say and do, or think that mean thought…where are my manners? Do I hope to be treated like I’m about to treat them?

And our kids are watching…

We all in our heart of hearts want to become better people.

Let’s not disappoint ourselves.

Get Healed of Your Hurts

Jennifred Jones

Hurt people hurt other people. It’s that simple…doing unto others as you’ve had done unto you.

  • Malice seeks to hurt people.
  • Malice wants you to hurt yourself.
  • Malice wants us to hate and then justify why.
  • Malice is all about destruction and hurting others.

There is a book I read some years back, Hurt People Hurt People. It explains it very well.

If we allow ourselves to move past the hurt then:

  • Helped people can help people
  • Healed people can heal other people
  • Healthy people can cause healthy relationships

We all bring what we have to the table. What are we bringing to the table?

Maybe we can wipe the table clean. Forgive what needs to be forgiven and move forward to a better relationship with ourselves and others.

We can be healed. We can be free.

Somebody vs Nobody

Jennifred Jones

Last post, I related a story about the man coming into the office angry and trying to deposit his ‘people-pain’ on me. I mentioned how my response was kind and friendly even though his actions were undeserving; but isn’t that the way life is? None of us deserve good treatment, but we are obligated to treat all humans with respect and kindness, being an example of what we’d like to see from them. “Do unto others as you would like done unto you.” Sometimes that is very hard to remember, much less do. But it is a possible goal…it won’t be done perfectly or often enough, but it is a goal I’m striving for. Back to the gentleman previously mentioned. As an experiment in people, I have treated him very kindly since that experience and guess what? He came into the office another time and I wished him a good day and he said with his back to me, “Same to you.” What a surprise!!! That was the most positive thing I’d heard from him ever! The next time he came in, I wished him a good day again and this time he replied, “Have a good day.” Again still not facing me when he spoke, but this was progress none-the-less! He has been in several more times since and his demeanor is changing for the better each time. I think some people have in their minds from previous episodes in their lives, thought patterns that they have to act, react or think and respond in certain ways. They don’t see other options. By treating them with kindness and respect and just being good to them, I believe it raises the bar in their lives by raising the bar in their own eyes of who they are. They begin to see themselves as someone worth something to someone else and because they are now a somebody and not a nobody, they begin to treat others as somebodies and not nobodies. Try this experiment in you own life and see what good results they bring.