I Am a Model

Today I am modeling…

Many people want to be noticed, remembered, looked up to, thought important…maybe even become a model!

They don’t know it, but they already are! We’re all modeling something every moment of every day to somebody, to nobody, to ourselves…what do they (we) see? Is it something we’d be happy to see, something we want to see, something we’re proud of? Is it even something we really want to model or are we only modeling what others (or we think others) want us to?

These are deep questions to ponder. All my growing up years on into college, I was in constant inner turmoil. Do I look good? What will others think? Do my clothes look right, am I stylish, is my hair okay, my glasses on straight, am I too skinny? I was a self-conscious wreck!! Finally at 21 I learned it was okay to be who I was. I looked okay in my homemade clothes (I was too tall for most dresses and pants), I was born with curly hair, that’s just the way I was made and my glasses helped me see better and being skinny I could be more active. So there!

But before that revelation, I was modeling shyness, insecurity, inferiority, self-consciousness, not really any fun to be around. I wasn’t happy to see me, I wasn’t proud of myself and was all wrapped up in myself so I couldn’t think about anybody else! Crazy how that works! (It was all me, myself and I)

A new mindset had to be formed where thoughts of others and their needs became important to me. What a relief to not be so self-consumed! There was freedom to think new thoughts, find new interests, make new friends, try new things and go different places. There would always be someone fun to meet and talk to.

How about you? Are you modeling who you are or want to be, or are you modeling what you think others will want to see?

Only flip the switch inside of you and you’ll become the something new.

Live Life!

That sounds odd. What do you mean live life? I’m already alive!

Maybe, maybe not. How many of us are consumed in one way or another watching and waiting for the next bad thing to happen? We’re keeping up all right with everything except our own lives. It’s so easy with instant access to every event on the planet that we’re always thinking about what’s happening ‘over there’ and not tending to what’s happening ‘over here’.

We’re not ‘over there’ wherever that may be to you on the globe. We’re here at our own home, our hometown, with our own family and neighbors and friends. They need us and they need us first! Don’t neglect the ones in your vicinity at the expense of keeping up with the people ‘over there’.

Yes, we have a very important life to live, and we live it here – where we live, at our house with our family, in our own yard with our neighbors and friends who desperately need the real-life connection only those close to them can give. Right now, let’s forget all the charities we could be helping with ‘over there’ when there are ‘charities’ at home we need to — we must attend to first!

Charity is just another word for love. Let’s give ourselves first to our own to laugh and love and live every day. The news and unpleasant things will continue to happen, but our family and friends will grow up and move on and we will have missed living happily together if we’re living our life ‘over there’ at the cost of truly living ‘over here’ where those closest to us are.

Today, I choose to focus on living here.