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Forgotten Victories

Jennifred Jones

Nothing is going right! Not a thing! Today is downhill!!

Oh really? Have you forgotten something? Have you forgotten your previous victories?

Previous victories mean there are more to come. We need to put a pause on the downcast moment of the present and recall the triumphs of the past.

Remember when?

  • You got your first job
  • You earned your first paycheck
  • You passed your driver’s license test
  • You graduated from high school or college
  • You found a wonderful spouse
  • Your first baby was born
  • Your good idea earned you a promotion
  • You overcame a long-standing bad habit
  • You learned a new language
  • You learned a new skill
  • You figured out a difficult situation
  • You made the right decision in a very hard moment, and it was the best decision

‘Oh, yeah, I forgot about all of these. I guess I have had a lot of victories in the past.’

Don’t let these remain forgotten. Pick a time and write them down for remembrance sake. Keep a file of all the positive emails or correspondence you’ve received so when the ‘Nothing’s going right’ strike, you have a rebuttal against them.

Autonomy

Jennifred Jones

Why are you using such big words? What’s it mean anyway?

Breaking the word down backwards it says, ‘my auto”, and if it’s your car you can drive it wherever you want. But the Greek meaning is self-legislation, self-governance. This means you are to be in charge of your life, your actions, your decisions. Basically, you tell yourself what to do. (You drive your life where you want it to go.) You tell yourself what is best for you and do it. You don’t need other people telling you what they think you should say, do, think, where to go to school, who to marry, what to like, dislike, who to vote for etc, etc, etc.

Autonomy is a self-regulating freedom. As with any freedom and freedom to make your own decisions, we have guidelines in communities, cities, states, countries of what is allowed or not allowed, and our freedom must abide within those guidelines. But autonomy is a wonderful thing. Many countries in the world and over the centuries had no such freedoms. They were always told what to do and when.

But we have the freedom, ability, to decide if we want a better life we can go after it. We want a better relationship with our friends and family, no one can stop us. We want to give up a bad habit or two, we are able to direct our lives that way. There is no law preventing you from doing any good thing you want to do. We don’t tell other people what to do and conversely, we don’t let others tell us what to do.

We get to decide what’s good and beneficial for us and ours and move in that direction. We do not need permission from higher anybody to do the right thing.

Now what do I really want to do – to see happen in my life for good? How could I make it happen? The reins are in my hands.

Let’s get the ball rolling!