Why a Coffee?

“You don’t need another coffee,” some may say. “It’s not all that good for you anyway.”

Let them have their opinions.

It’s not just about the coffee.

It is the human-to-human touch we are seeking while we order our coffee. The eye-to-eye contact with the barista as they pay attention to us while we try to decide which new flavor to try.  It’s sitting in the cozy coffee shop watching other humans interact with each other. This is part of the ongoing therapeutic rebuilding of relationships… and the importance of being with others after the dark years of COVID.

We have come out of the dark and are looking for the light of new friends and acquaintances – times to sit close to one another while we sip our coffee.

We can go alone, order our coffee and sit and watch the mothers coming in with other mothers and littles, or the men’s group meeting in the corner, a manager giving an interview, students on their laptops studying, old folks reading a newspaper or book. Watching humanity interact is invigorating and uplifting, or contemplative and moving.

All this is more than just a cup of coffee. It is part of our recovery, reclaiming our humanness, our need for others. We are rebonding – rebanding – becoming strong together again. We need to do this.

And it is all free! Included in the price of your coffee!

It is good to the last drop!

What do you think?

Restored

How many of us need to be restored? At least in some area of our life.

Restoration has played a big part in my life. Restoring old furniture, old houses, order to the kitchen or closets. Restoration to family relationships. Speaking of which, my older brother and I were at odds much of our childhood. He’d call me names, hit and kick me, made me so mad, and I’d ignore him, but simmer inside. It was a get-along just to get-along relationship, and I didn’t like it…but didn’t know what to do about it. How many families have inner tensions, brothers and sisters, fathers and children who grow up and haven’t spoken to each other in years??!!

At 19, in college, I saw God’s concern for me like I’d never known it before. He began to restore me. I began to think about my brother and changed my attitude towards him…forgave him, asked God to forgive me, and prayed for him every night after I went to bed. About a year or so later one day he asked me to go to lunch with him. We only went to Burger King, but that changed everything in our relationship. We have been best friends since then. He is so smart and has helped me with and through so many things. What if we had never been restored?

I am so glad there is hope. I’m so glad things can be restored. I’m so glad God is in the restoration business. 

Is there something you need to have restored? God’s office doors are open day or night.

‘You be You’ or ‘Me be Me’?

They sound about the same, but are they?

This morning, trying to ‘arrange’ my very curly hair (to utilize its naturalness more fully and wondering how it would turn out, because it’s a ‘never the same twice’ hairdo), I thought, ‘I’m just going to be me. Let the locks fall where they may’!

That’s really what we all want…acceptance of who we are, where we are, as we are!

LET ME BE ME! 

But why do we need permission from somebody else to be who we are?

That’s where the ‘you be you‘ phrase got involved.

Many times, I think, when people tell us, ‘you be you’, there is another motive involved. They want you to be who they want you to be. And if you look around, all the ‘you be you-ers‘ look alike in many ways.

Not saying we have to become an oddball and do something crazy or hurtful to us or others to be ‘unique’. That’s not ‘me being me’. That’s trying to force your place when you already have a place.

Why is it so hard to get past what other people think? Because we all seek approval. But the good approval we need isn’t going to pull us down to a lesser version of ourselves. True approval will help/encourage us to be better, stronger, wiser, more reliant on our own judgement – not seeking wrong approvals.

This is where you will find your self-confidence. As you begin to launch out into the new and improved ‘let me be me‘ person, you will develop and grow into the better, stronger, wiser individual you always wanted to be!

Truly, let’s move forward together as ‘let me be me-ers‘ and become, each of us, who we really are.

There is so much good we can do once we allow ourselves to be and do what we are made to be and do.