Autonomy

Why are you using such big words? What’s it mean anyway?

Breaking the word down backwards it says, ‘my auto”, and if it’s your car you can drive it wherever you want. But the Greek meaning is self-legislation, self-governance. This means you are to be in charge of your life, your actions, your decisions. Basically, you tell yourself what to do. (You drive your life where you want it to go.) You tell yourself what is best for you and do it. You don’t need other people telling you what they think you should say, do, think, where to go to school, who to marry, what to like, dislike, who to vote for etc, etc, etc.

Autonomy is a self-regulating freedom. As with any freedom and freedom to make your own decisions, we have guidelines in communities, cities, states, countries of what is allowed or not allowed, and our freedom must abide within those guidelines. But autonomy is a wonderful thing. Many countries in the world and over the centuries had no such freedoms. They were always told what to do and when.

But we have the freedom, ability, to decide if we want a better life we can go after it. We want a better relationship with our friends and family, no one can stop us. We want to give up a bad habit or two, we are able to direct our lives that way. There is no law preventing you from doing any good thing you want to do. We don’t tell other people what to do and conversely, we don’t let others tell us what to do.

We get to decide what’s good and beneficial for us and ours and move in that direction. We do not need permission from higher anybody to do the right thing.

Now what do I really want to do – to see happen in my life for good? How could I make it happen? The reins are in my hands.

Let’s get the ball rolling!

One = None?

Crazy thought the other morning!

I was trying to do something…can’t even remember what it was now, but I thought, ‘I don’t feel like I’m any good at this!’ All of a sudden, the spiral down kicked in…’I’m not good at anything!’

Thought about it for a few moments until I realized it was not true. I began remembering all the things I have/had done that did work out for good and quickly silenced the prior notion.

That’s how it works in our mind sometimes…fighting off discouragement, inability, confusion. None of that is true about us. We are good at certain things. We are made to grow and succeed…to develop, to invent, to brainstorm and imagine better ways for life.

It’s a habit we want to develop…remembering past accomplishments when discouragement comes our way.

What today have I done good at and can build forward upon?

Let me think…

The Gift of Language

Little kids try to get along by hitting, pushing, shoving, taking.

They haven’t matured and learned enough language to think and speak what they want through words, so they don’t have to resort to force.

Are we adults the same way many times? We don’t have a big enough working vocabulary.  It takes time and effort to learn words and each of their meanings. It is a lifelong process. Then we haven’t spent enough time thinking to draw together our thoughts into meaningful conversation to convey what we need, want, hope for – or to be able to understand what others need, want, and hope for when they speak to us.

It works both ways.

The more words we know, the more detailed our conversation can become; the finer the understanding; the more complete the thought processing. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Yet words describe behind the picture, the thoughts of why it was painted and how it came into being.

There is something about language that is so needful for us humans to fully interact. We could all help ourselves, become better if we broaden our vocabulary and learn how to use it, to think it through and then to convey it.

Language is a gift.  Being able to peacefully negotiate (talk) with another human being about things important to us in a way they can fully understand what we mean and are thinking. We can know they heard us correctly because we used the right words.  And we, in turn, do the same with them as they speak clearly with their words. This can prevent many fights or misunderstandings.

Of course, there still needs to be the back and forth of conversation – asking questions…did you mean this when you said that…?

How do we start? Pick any area of interest to you and investigate one new word about that subject. Read its meaning in all aspects and practice using it. Aim to learn one new word a week. Watch your vocabulary and understanding increase. Don’t let big words intimidate you. You personally, will be pleased with your growth.

Pick your subject and begin today. Become a master of your own language!